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Why Is It So Difficult to Make a New Habit Stick?

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them - Albert Einstein

Here are my three reasons for why we can't get our new habits to stick:

We make time and money for what we want

When we really want to change something, we do it. We find the time and the money to make it happen. If you want to change a behavior and you've made a few attempts and it's not sticking, it's quite possible that you just aren't ready to shift.

And that's fine, so long as you acknowledge that it's where you are in your life at this moment.

Lasting change takes time

The idea that we can undo years of learned behavior overnight is an irrational thought that keeps us from moving forward and into our lives.

Real change requires consistent action on a daily basis. To change behavior, we must practice self-awareness by being in the moment and shifting our negative self-talk as soon as a limiting belief enters our mind.

We need ongoing support to make changes stick

You may have noticed that some of the people closest to you tease you or are resistant to changes that you make in your life. It can be as small as changing your hairstyle to as big as quitting your job.

The people closest to us are comfortable with their idea of us, not of who we are or what we're becoming.

When we decide to do something new for our lives, the shift we make to support that change makes them uncomfortable and they project that discomfort onto us.

This lack of support from the people whose opinions and approval we seek and respect is hurtful and can cause us to fall back into old patterns.

Action Steps

Ask yourself: 

Am I sure that I want to be happy and healthy?

Am I willing to make the investment in my health and my personal freedom, no matter the time or cost involved?

Am I willing to change?

There's no judgment here. Instead, be honest with yourself about where you are in your life right now. If you're ready to move forward, you will make it happen. If you're not ready,
you're just not ready.

Set a realistic timeline for your goals

You might want to quit your job, relocate to a new city or country,lose 20 pounds, and/or attract a romantic partner. Achieving these goals don't happen overnight, in a week, or even a month. If you attempt to do any of these things without a plan, you may find yourself having
to deal with the negative consequences of your rushed actions, and could set yourself back further than where you started.

Who truly supports you?

Make a list of the people in your life that you consider to be your friends and trusted confidants. Then ask yourself, are these people your true friends or are they friends of your habits? If you changed a behavior today, would you have to find new friends tomorrow? Who in your life holds you accountable to what you say you want and do for yourself? Those are the peopleyou will need to turn the page and write a new chapter in your life.