How can you make sure that you have good, quality relationships with your closest friends? The first step is to make a list of your friends. This could be 3, 4, 5 or even 20 people. Now look at the list and write down one or two instances when this person has really, truly touched you or influenced you in a good way. Now write down everything that you have in common with that person and how you feel when you are with them. Do you feel that the conversation flows naturally, or is it forced and uncomfortable at times? Do you feel like you are completely yourself around that person?